stop the phrase “tattle-tale”. stop indirectly telling kids that if they speak up about someone that’s bothering them, they’re doing something bad. stop contributing to the culture of abuse.
seriously though this NEEDS to stop. my mother. a grownass woman of 59. had to ask me over and over again if I was sure it wasn’t ethically dubious for her to go to her employer and report harassment and terror tactics from a coworker because she didn’t “want to be a tattler.” stop teaching kids not to be “tattle-tales” because they will not grow out of it.
This this this.
I hope this is okay to add but in addition to the above it can create immediate and dangerous problems for children, with other children.
When I was six years old, one of my first grade classmates bullied me relentlessly for a long time. When I tried to tell the teacher that he wouldn’t stop touching me, she told me that I was being a tattle-tale and disrupting the class. So he got worse and worse. Before I knew it, he was telling me that I had to let him destroy my school supplies because his daddy told him that women have to obey the word of men. The bullying culminated in him and his friend waiting until the teacher and all the other kids left at the end of the day, cornering me at my desk, then threatening to bring his dad’s gun to school and shoot me if I didn’t stop wearing my favorite boots.
I didn’t tell the teacher because that would have been ‘tattling’. I didn’t tell my parents until they asked why I was upset that night. I wound up talking to the principal with my dad, and the principal was shocked that I had been too scared to report a shooting threat.
I know that a lot of people might think a kid would definitely report something like that, but I didn’t. A lot of kids don’t. Please, please give kids the chance to tell you if something is wrong, don’t brush them off, make sure they know that they can come to you for help. Don’t make them think they’re a burden or a ‘tattle-tale’.
And you might think, “Oh, well kids should know the difference between tattling and getting help, they should know when something is important and when it’s not. They should know better.”. They don’t. A 3 year old does not know he doesn’t need to cry when he wanted the blue jelly bean or if the thing he’s trying to do doesn’t work, those things are important to him and he is expressing himself in the only way he has ever known and it is your job to teach him how to manage his emotions, not internalize them because they “aren’t important”.
Little kids don’t know what’s important and what’s not. As they get older they learn, but if you just tell them to quit complaining and deal with shit, that’s what they’ll do until it’s bigger shit that does matter and now it’s your fault that your kid feels like he/she can’t express themselves when frustrated or scared or angry or whatever. You might think “Well, he’s 5 now, he should know.” Just, inherently? By osmosis? Did you even hold a child-rearing book against his head to increase the chances of successful osmosis? NO? Then I’m guessing you didn’t teach him that his feelings are valid but there are appropriate and effective responses, and which those are.
Also: Stop bullying your fucking kids into being bullies. “Man up” and “Deal with it” are not appropriate parenting techniques. You just told your kid that his/her problem doesn’t matter and they should just cram it deep down and stop bothering you with their emotions.
Yeah, you’re old as fuck and your kid’s problem seems stupid and asinine, but your kid isn’t old as fuck and that problem is new and they don’t know what to do about it. Don’t be a dick.
This shit seriously pisses me off, I remember when I was younger I told my parents that my brother broke my nose and I got grounded for ‘snitching’
This is not circus but is something very Scottish and highly patriotic.
Basically, Glasgow does anti-Trump better than anywhere in the world. If ever there was a reason for Scottish pride. A not-circus post that simply had to be shared. Especially since 99% of my followers are not Scottish and it’s important to share the culture.
if you didn’t believe that England hates Donald Trump already: the most recent news of his visit today is that the mayor of London approved protestors releasing a £16,000 Trump in-a-diaper balloon to fly 98ft above ground when he visits, and literally no British person is surprised. Welcome to London.
I’m literally not kidding
the people who are managing the balloon are called trump babysitters. I’ve never loved my country more.
i fucking love this country. Trust us to make the president feel welcome
the best part about this is that trump expected to have a royally welcome visit but as soon as he made an appearance, thousands of angry British people started chanting “fuck trump!” on repreat for hours.
UPDATE: Trump has managed to generate a bigger crowd than Obama did, but for all the wrong reasons. The entirety of London is filled with angry anti-trump protestors, to the point where he is refusing to make an appearance due to fear for his safety.
Here are some fucking awesome protest signs being shown today. I hope we’ve made you proud!
I’m glad you are all coming together and all for a cause that you believe in but Trump has done more good for our country in the short time he’s been in office than Obama, Bush, and Clinton, maybe not all their terms combined but definantly all of Obama’s 8 years, I’m glad he’s in office and will vote again for him next election date, I appreciate the country of England for not physically attacking him (I only say that because there are TONS of Americans who have threatened him with that and they have been investigated properly mind you) and on his behalf appreciate your open opinions of him, you don’t have to like him, but the fact is that he is making our country better, and that’s the beauty of it you can have your opinion and you can display it freely and however you want, basically what I’m trying to say is I stand by my president, and although I may not agree with what you guys said and did I understand why you said and did what you did, and it was only allowed because of Freedom such as which my president stands for into a degree he understands that as well he’s just not as good as voicing it as some other Americans are
so I’m playing ESO Summerset and doing this real neat and clever quest where this lady is liked “my twin bro gave up the chance to train with amazing mages to join an acting troupe. this is the worst decision he ever made on top of ditching me. please help me find him because all the actors wear masks.”
so i go through the motions and find a dancer who has a scar like the lady mentioned and he said he used to be a mage. but the troupe leader convinces me that I should think about the brother and what he wants and we put a stop to the sister’s plan to unmask the actor to get him kicked out.
sister pisses off and is going to be thrown out of town. So i go to the troupe leader and she confesses that SHE’S the twin! Now she had said briefly that I should be careful in picking whom I thought was the bro because some people hide their gender on top of hiding their faces, so it’s not quite 100% out of the blue.
I convince her to talk with her sis and she reveals herself to be her twin and apologizes for lying, but she just didn’t want to be something she wasn’t anymore–mainly a mage.
AND THEN the troupe leader/twin says to me “hey, if you want to ever stop bythe troupe house, I’d love to chat more” and that is after the quest. it’s pretty rare for there to be stuff to do/learn after the quest, but with Morrowind, there have been a few things. So I go and find her because I have aa feeling I know what it’s about. anyone who doesn’t quite catch what the quest is REALLY about might not think much and just think “ya she probs just will say ‘hey thanks for helping me out” because that how most of these quests go. NPCs give you like 3 lines about what they’re up to know and then just rinse and repeat.
but I went and it got a whole lot better. This convo was clearly meant for people who knew what the end of the quest was really about.
Not only does she admit that she was uncomfortable living as a man so she transitioned she also explains that there are plenty of trans folk across tamriel and some go about their self learned identity in different ways.
this is why I fuck with Bethesda and Todd Howard. they have always been including like real people and real stories into their games. they’ve always allowed you to gay marry anyone, they’ve tossed in gays here and there, and finally they gave us a transwoman. Other games are just weak and they are cowards
Professional commission work: 400-550 bucks
Tumblr commission work: 70 bucks
some of you: OMG UR COMMISSIONS ARE TOO EXPENSIVE WTF it’s almost like you value your time 😡 not cool dude
I wanted to add to this: I (and a lot of artists I know) have been contacted multiple times by studios asking for +15 illustrations a week, freelancing, and paying 15 bucks for each one. Reminder that professional studios can be unreasonable predatory cheap assholes as well and they usually target people from countries they know they can get cheap workforce from
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